Friday, April 03, 2009

(Existential) Quote of the Week


"My experience with becoming an adult is, you come to this place where you see that you have this set of beliefs. And you run up against things that kind of defy that. You get into a situation where there isn't one simple answer and all the arrogance, all the surety of youth is either thrown back at you or it's at least ineffective. And then the world is thorny, and the world is fucked up and very hard to manage, and it's impossible to know whether you did the right thing or the wrong thing. It's about being disabused of this idea that there's a stone-cold right and wrong."

-- Ben Affleck (of all people) in this month's issue of Esquire

32 comments:

Anonymous said...

Unless I'm missing something, he's right.

Morrighan said...

Same here, Fred. I think the "of all people" comment was a jab at Bennifer the 1st or earlier.

Now he's married to the wholesomest person in Tinseltown, so...take that!

Jeff said...

I never disliked Ben Affleck. He seems like a down to earth person, mediocre actor, better director, who was unfairly disparaged after being caught in massive backlash against the overexposure of a relationship I refuse to name.

He nails the nail on the head with this one. Unfortunately, I seem to be surrounded by people who don't get this and probably never will.

Deacon Blue said...

Although his acting and choices of roles can be spotty, he's always struck me as a pretty bright guy in interviews.

Karen said...

Sure, the quote was impressive, but the label stole the show.

Izar Talon said...

I've always liked Ben Affleck. It's always annoyed me when people pick on him.

Heather said...

Wow, I like that. I also agree with the guys up top; he's totally right.

Miss C said...

Agree with Jeff. Not a great actor, but he seems pretty aware of that fact. He's always been witty and self-deprecating and observant in interviews. Gone Baby Gone was excellent and I hope he does more directing. And yes this quote is apt and pretty damn easy to relate to at the moment (for a lot of us I'm guessing).

-Casey, noble defender of all her old teenage crushes ;)

Miss C said...

PS: Okay, just caught the hilarious label. You win.

Jeff said...

Oops. Meant "hit the nail"

Gabrielle said...

Chez,
I guess this was a jab at Ben Affleck (?). While I've never cared much for his ex-fiancée or, more importantly, for the attention their relationship was given, I do feel compelled to point out that Ben Affleck has quietly but persistently been doing a lot of work in the Democratic Republic of the Congo to end the raging gender-based violence taking place in the Eastern region of Kivu.
My dad works for the US Embassy in Kinshasa and has met with Ben Affleck twice. He's told me that he's a very polite, humble and sensitive young man - and my dad isn't exactly one to get star-struck.
The reason I bring this up is also because, as a State Department employee myself, I am constantly amazed at how little coverage the situation in the Congo gets, considering it's the most deadly conflict since WWII. Worst than Irak, Viet Nam, Rwanda, Cambodia - nearly 6 million dead in 6 years. And while I am happy that Hollywood seems to care a lot about Darfur, I remain mystified as to why no one talks about the indescribably horrific violence taking place in the Congo.
According to my dad, the only celebrities who are doing anything about it are Ashley Judd and Ben Affleck.
I'm not saying either one are the greatest actors ever to grace the silver screen or whatever, but I do and always will respect them both for caring about the plight of women and girls living in a place where getting raped with machetes is an everyday occurance.
Sorry for the horribly graphic image, but, again, no one seems to care or even know about this conflict - except Ben Affleck and Ashley Judd.
So, go easy on the guy, 'Kay?
Gaby

Anonymous said...

At 28, I am now discovering this. It's like somebody just kicked me in the stomach, but I refuse to give up those beliefs yet. Then again, maybe its just my youth rufusing to grow up.

Chez said...

Acutually, it wasn't a slam at Affleck at all, Gabrielle.

Bill Orvis White said...

What a rotten Hollywood brat. Life is simple. There is right and wrong and good and evil. If he read the Good Book and looked at the 10 Commandments, this spoiled piece of garbage would understand life. Just when you thought there was hope in this world, this moron comes along and makes the sane, hard-working folks like me stay awake all night wondering what our future holds. Give this stupid bed-wetter a Walmart helmet, a gun that jams and send him into Iraq to become part of the patriotic, successful surge.

Gabrielle said...

Chez, I feel stupid. I suddenly see where you were going with this post...
I certainly hope I didn't seem lecturey; it's just that most of the time, when people say anything about Ben Affleck, it's to mock him.
Though I almost never comment,I've been a daily reader for years. Since I'm in a responsive mood today, I just thought that this week might be as good a time as any to thank you for your brilliant writing, great taste in music (how many fantastic bands have I discovered thanks to the Listening Posts?), and heart-warming pictures of Inara. Those always brighten my day...
So thanks, and sorry for the mix-up.

Brenda said...

Is anyone else concerned that a State Dept. employee can't spell "Iraq?"

Anonymous said...

I think Ben Affleck was awesome in Boiler Room.

"Jim Young: They say money can't buy happiness? Look at the fucking smile on my face. Ear to ear, baby. "

"Jim Young: There's an important phrase that we use here, and think it's time that you all learned it. Act as if. You understand what that means? Act as if you are the fucking President of this firm. Act as if you got a 9" cock. Okay? Act as if."

"Jim Young: Anybody who tells you money is the root of all evil doesn't fucking have any."


Best part? Evil stockbrokers get nailed in the end.


Ben Affleck is also totally right with this statement.

blackbird said...

Mmmm...maybe I can have myself a Ben Affleck flavoured dream tonight!

Always liked him...even through his temporary insanity.

Elessa said...

i didn't read you comment as a slam on affleck whatsoever.

i like this quote. it is spoken with a true sense of what life is about as an adult. he now sees all the shades of grey.

thank you very much for posting this.

Nicole said...

I think I want this stitched on a sampler. I'm not fucking around. It's a lesson I'm still trying to get into my own skull.

Artemisian said...

I've always liked Affleck, even when he was with She Who Will Not Be Named. Just thought it was a damn shame he caught up with her. He's always been funny, smart, and down to earth in my honest opinion.

Stephen said...

I still crack up when I see the scene of him on the interview asking for a retainer fee in Good Will Hunting. Too much publicity can give anyone a bad rap. We'll be imdb'ing him 30 years from now and see an enviable list of movies to his credit.

Anonymous said...

I live in Boston area. He's generally thought to be a dick around here. Of course the people that say that don't know him or have had only fleeting contact with him. Still that's the impression.

SteveR said...

Looks like Ben grew up. Some people never do. They are so afraid of ambiguity.

I think he's all right, and I didn't read your "of all people" as a slam ... more of an "I didn't expect it".

Lizzy Frizzfrock said...

Hear! Hear! Let's hear it for Ben! The world is not black or white... lot's of variations there. I love the line: "It's about being disabused of the idea that there's a stone-cold right & wrong." A bit of meandering, but he hit the nail on the head!

Figgylicious said...

Every now and then I forget that this is the guy that did Daredevil, and remember that he wrote Good Will Hunting and that maybe he's not a dumbass after all. Great quote.

The Army Wife said...

I've always particularly like Ben Affleck. He doesn't get taken very seriously that often, but he seems like he's got a good head on his shoulders.

Anonymous said...

i knew bill white would post this one. he's so black and white. what a self-fellating dick.

Anonymous said...

Wow, 28+ comments on a Ben Affleck quote. Way to go America. I'm completely indifferent about anything Ben has to say, and now that we've covered all possible bases can we move on? The great weight has been lifted....

Chez said...

Yeah, it never ceases to amaze me which little tidbits generate a good response.

Anonymous said...

On as usual Chez, keep it up.

The Manimal said...

I agree with Ben, but only to a certain extent. Sometimes it's possible to know, or even impossible not to know, that you have done the wrong thing, like that time I had unprotected sex with some random while I was drunk and coked out. The burning sensation and the discharge that I experienced a few days later let me know that without a doubt, I had fucked up majorly. So....yeah.