Thursday, November 15, 2007
The Skeleton Key
In addition to all the other brilliant things that he said throughout his lifetime, George Bernard Shaw offered up what could be the most insightful advice ever given on the subject of surviving the trials and tribulations of love, marriage and family.
He insinuated that if you can't keep a skeleton in the closet, the smartest thing you can do is teach it how to dance.
As many of you know, my wife Jayne and I have been going through a period of very serious turmoil recently. I've made no attempt to either hide or downplay this fact during the past couple of months.
In spite of the fact that I reveal so much of my personal life here on this site, prudence would suggest that I keep any positive news on the relationship front to myself, pending a little breathing room. But given that both Jayne and I have received so many e-mails, comments and MySpace messages with warm wishes -- and I really can't express how much I appreciate the outpouring of support -- I feel like I should at least keep those who care filled in.
Although we can offer no guarantees and are operating solely on the "One Day at a Time" plan, Jayne and I have made the mutual decision that our marriage is worth working on -- that we're worth working on. Despite our seemingly intractable declarations of separation and possible divorce (and please understand that at no point should the seriousness of those claims ever have been in question) both of us understand and accept our responsibilities to ourselves, to our families and to the promise we once made to each other.
As for how we feel about one another: Love was never the problem, although who knows -- in the end, maybe it'll be the solution.
Once again, there are no assurances, but when are there ever?
For the time being, at least we have our dance partners back.